Your family and friends – we call them your “support network” will be crucial in your adoption journey.
You have probably heard the saying “It takes a village to raise a child”. We think there is some truth in this although it will be you doing the raising with the support of your network!
Parenting is not easy and parenting an adopted child brings with it unique challenges due to the child’s history and experiences. We know from experience how important it is for adoptive parents to have support around them. This can be practical support- for example someone dropping off a meal or doing a wash for you- even babysitting (much later when the child is well settled). Or it can be emotional support- being a listening ear, offering encouragement and reassurance. What we want for every child is to belong to a loving and nurturing family and community. Belonging is very important for all children but especially adopted children. It is really good for children to have trusted adults around them and part of their life- not just their parents.
We will want you to think about the support that you have available. You might not have needed much support up to now but think about what you might need when you become parents to a needy, vulnerable child.
Have you talked to your family and friends about adoption? If not it is a good idea to discuss with them the type of support they may be able to offer.
We provide training to your network so that they have an understanding of the needs of adopted children and the parenting they will need. If your network is limited think about what you can do to enhance this. Can you join any clubs or groups locally to make friends/contacts. Are there any voluntary work opportunities available to you? This could have the added benefit of increasing your experience with children if it is connected to children’s groups.
The support available to you from your family and/or friends will be considered as part of your assessment because it is so important. It might be good to have conversations with them early so that you know when entering the process what this will look like for you.
Building a support network takes time, and not everyone will be able to give you what you are looking for right now. Prioritise the relationships that provide understanding, empathy, and encouragement.
If you have any questions, please feel free to contact us. Our team will be happy to talk to you in more detail on how you can build a strong support network as you embark on your journey to becoming adoptive parents.
